|Free Advice from a Grumpy Old Man|
Friday, February 25, 2005
I'm 16 and I think I'm gay
Until about a year ago I only liked girls....I started feeling like attracted to guys too....so does that mean I am gay or bi or what...how do I know what to pick?
It means that you are 16.
You are not required to choose a sexual preference and stick to it as if it were a car loan payment plan.
In fact we are learning from science that you do not choose it at all. And we have already learned from science that 16 year old boys are not yet fully developed, physically or emotionally.
Nor are they all the same. Some people know their sexual preference without a shadow of a doubt before they reach puberty and never give it a second thought. Others go through periods of uncertainty, as you are experiencing.
Some people are bisexual. Some scientists say that we are all bisexual, to one degree or another.
It is almost certain that by the time you have completed adolescence, you will know whether you are gay, bi, or straight.
Problems related to sexual preference have to do with societies and cultures, not you. You may at some point have to cope with the problems of other people regarding this issue, the important thing is to remember that the problem is not yours, but theirs!
In the meantime, since the issue is worrying you, if there are GLBT organizations with teen outreach programs in your area, give them a call. You can talk to grownups who went through the same things, and be reassured that like acne, this too will pass, and you will be just fine, whatever your sexual preference as an adult turns out to be.
|I am a Grumpy Old Man who will give you free advice, which you will in all probability, ignore.